In order to properly aim your temper and take it out ONLY in ways you are allowed to, you need to learn how to get angry when necessary and get calm when necessary! To become angry, for the right reasons, ...and in the right directions as alwasy and of coures, ...think about things that you've seen in life and or that have happenned to you that made you angry or stressed, if you have to, write them all down...also, work on a list of thing that make you feel better so that when all is said and done, you'll have happier moments to think of and less stressful concepts to calm your rage when you accomplish your task! Aim it at those who already deserved it!!! Then, take ten and calm down, I know of a lot of people that need to learn assertive behavior, this is a good place to start! Easy enough!???